Have you ever had a conversation with someone and after the conversation was over, you suddenly realize that you have just been manipulated by a Puppeteer Personality?
This type of individual is devious, and the only goal is to “control” the situation or you! A person who is manipulating can be anyone, but you can “spot” a manipulator by certain characteristics. The person is usually egotistical, even though deep down they are insecure. They are controlling. They will use any tactic that has worked in the past to control other people. They may be more subtle by using passive aggression, guilt trips, and persuasion or more obvious, such as yelling, throwing, and even physical abuse. You can tell when you have come face-to-face with a by a Puppeteer Personality when you are feeling negative about yourself just by talking to the other person, when in most cases, you don’t. On the other hand, you may find the interaction with a manipulator to be a positive one. He/she may have tried to charm you and shower you with compliments. However, you soon realize that you gave into something you did NOT want to do or did NOT agree with in the first place, and you have just been manipulated! The outcome is always negative.
It is necessary to point out that there is a difference between being manipulated and being influenced. Maybe the person wants you to see a movie that you did not intend on seeing, but you changed your mind. This may not have been manipulation. Think to yourself: Did you agree to change your mind? Did you agree to the person’s idea, willingly? Was the person willing to accept your opinion? Did it have a positive outcome? If you were given respect from the other person, you were NOT being manipulated? Here’s a chart to compare the two:
However, there are cases when the person may NOT even realize he/she is trying to manipulate, because that has been the only way the person has learned to interact in that situation. They may have had an unhealthy childhood or very dysfunctional relationships. You can have empathy for this person, but keep it at a distance. Manipulators also use sympathy as a means of getting what they want. Manipulation is not excusable and STILL should not be tolerated, because the outcome is still the same. “Be cautious of their behavior because they are attackers of the mind.”
Moreover, the same person who has manipulated may NOT manipulate in all situations, it may be a specific situation that TRIGGERS him/her to go into MANIPULATION MODE. A manipulator is not necessarily an overall deceitful person. He/She may have found that it’s the only way to cope through life. An individual who manipulates may feel desperate and have something to hide within themselves that they don’t want revealed! The goal is to say “NO” to the MANIPULATION he/she is using!
Some of us may have used these tactics, but those who use these tactics on a regular basis are the “true” manipulators. If the person uses at least 3 of these techniques, he/she is trying to manipulate you in some way! It may be moderate or severe. However, do NOT become a victim to these “manipulation methods”.
Let Go and Set Yourself Free and Do Not Be a Puppet to the Puppeteer Personality!
No Need to HATE The Manipulator, Thank Them for Helping to Make You STRONGER!
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The Music video is by Kelly Clarkson performing “Stronger”
YOU ARE STRONGER THAN YOU THINK!